Tax time makes everyone a little crazy--the cat is clearly no exception! :o
Tuesday, March 10, 2015
Saturday, February 21, 2015
a heart abandoned - part two
This is a follow-up to part one which was posted well over a year ago. While I have grieved and written about the loss of some specific best friends, this is about the whole community of friends that I've lost.
Back in my early and mid-20's, I was part of a close-knit group of five other girls. Beyond that, I had a large circle of friends and an even larger circle of acquaintances. Unlike my university friends, all these people belonged to my local community, and/or church. We saw each other weekly--or more. We were young, (mostly) single, and connected. We did small groups. We did bonfires. We called, facebooked, and texted. We worshiped, ate, sang, bowled, and partied together. At the time, I was confident that these would be the people I'd continue to grow alongside with throughout my 20's, 30's and beyond. It wouldn't matter that we'd get married, renovate houses, have babies and raise families.
But oh, how things change!
Fast-forward a few years... Aside from one individual, not a single person from the aforementioned group is currently a significant part of my life.
Oh, yes, I still talk to a few of them several times a year. A few I might see while at the grocery store or running errands around town. A few have school-age children who I've supply-taught. And then of course there's also a few who have de-friend-ed or blocked me on facebook.
Turns out, a lot of those friends and acquaintances really weren't such great friends after all.
Who was there for us after we were newly married and could have benefited from mentoring? How about when we wrestled with our church issues? Or when I quit going to church altogether? Who (besides Dan and Adam) from that community was there for us when we needed help with the house? Who chose to help walk me through some of my deepest shame and pain? No one from the group, that's for sure.
Tracy Lawrence says it best, when he sings:
Truth be told, I don't miss many of my former "friends." Oh, I miss having places to go, and things to do every weekend, and I miss being around people my own age. I miss the sense of community and feeling like there's a bunch of people who have my back. However, when it comes right down to it, I'd rather have one or two authentic friends than a whole host of shallow friendships.
So, while I am sadly lacking in meaningful friendships, I am profoundly grateful for two local ladies in particular who have stuck it out with me. One has been my friend since fourth grade. We've had our ups and downs; there have been years where we were extremely close, and years where we've barely spoken. Through it all, we've always still considered each other as friends, and no matter what, we're able to keep coming back and picking up right where we left off. This year, we've resolved to meeting for dinner once a month or so. The other I didn't meet until later in my 20's but we have managed to stay part of each other's lives, regardless of where we find ourselves. Everyone needs "a person." I have two.
Back in my early and mid-20's, I was part of a close-knit group of five other girls. Beyond that, I had a large circle of friends and an even larger circle of acquaintances. Unlike my university friends, all these people belonged to my local community, and/or church. We saw each other weekly--or more. We were young, (mostly) single, and connected. We did small groups. We did bonfires. We called, facebooked, and texted. We worshiped, ate, sang, bowled, and partied together. At the time, I was confident that these would be the people I'd continue to grow alongside with throughout my 20's, 30's and beyond. It wouldn't matter that we'd get married, renovate houses, have babies and raise families.
But oh, how things change!
Fast-forward a few years... Aside from one individual, not a single person from the aforementioned group is currently a significant part of my life.
Oh, yes, I still talk to a few of them several times a year. A few I might see while at the grocery store or running errands around town. A few have school-age children who I've supply-taught. And then of course there's also a few who have de-friend-ed or blocked me on facebook.
Turns out, a lot of those friends and acquaintances really weren't such great friends after all.
Who was there for us after we were newly married and could have benefited from mentoring? How about when we wrestled with our church issues? Or when I quit going to church altogether? Who (besides Dan and Adam) from that community was there for us when we needed help with the house? Who chose to help walk me through some of my deepest shame and pain? No one from the group, that's for sure.
Tracy Lawrence says it best, when he sings:
Run your car off the side of the road
Get stuck in a ditch way out in the middle of nowhere
Or get yourself in a bind,
Lose the shirt off your back,
Need a floor, need a couch, need a bus fare...
This is where the rubber meets the road
This is where the cream is gonna rise
This is what you really didn't know
This is where the truth don't lie
You find out who your friends are
Somebody's gonna drop everything
Run out and crank up their car
Hit the gas, get there fast
Never stop to think
"What's in it for me?"
Or "It's way too far"
They just show on up
With their big ol' heart
You find out who your friends are...
Everybody wants to slap your back
Wants to shake your hand
When you're up on top of that mountain
But let one of those rocks give way
Then you slide back down
Look up and see who's around then
This ain't where the road comes to an end
This ain't where the bandwagon stops
This is just one of those times when
A lot of folks jump off.
You find out who your friends are...
When the water's high
When the weather's not so fair
When the well runs dry
Who's gonna be there?
You find out who your friends are
Somebody's gonna drop everything
Run out and crank up their car
Hit the gas, get there fast
Never stop to think
"What's in it for me?"
Or "It's way too far"
They just show on up
With their big ol' heart
You find out who your friends are...
Real friends don't stop being your friend just because they don't like who you decide to marry, what you choose to believe, or where you attend (or don't attend) church. Real friends don't stop being your friend because life gets too hectic or messy.
So, while I am sadly lacking in meaningful friendships, I am profoundly grateful for two local ladies in particular who have stuck it out with me. One has been my friend since fourth grade. We've had our ups and downs; there have been years where we were extremely close, and years where we've barely spoken. Through it all, we've always still considered each other as friends, and no matter what, we're able to keep coming back and picking up right where we left off. This year, we've resolved to meeting for dinner once a month or so. The other I didn't meet until later in my 20's but we have managed to stay part of each other's lives, regardless of where we find ourselves. Everyone needs "a person." I have two.
Thursday, January 8, 2015
defining narcissism
We've heard the term before. Chances are, we've all met one. Some of you have been married to one. Many of us have been hurt by one. But what exactly is a Narcissist?
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a psychological disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual (DSM) that is characterized by:
-arrogance, grandiosity, & self-importance
So what does that look like in real life?
Relationships for the narcissist are about what people can do for them.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a psychological disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual (DSM) that is characterized by:
-arrogance, grandiosity, & self-importance
-a preoccupation with fantasies of success and power
-a conviction that one is special or unique
-a desire to receive the admiration of others
-a sense of entitlement
-interpersonally
exploitive behaviour
-an
inability to empathize with the needs and feelings of other people
-envy
(Spencer,
Garcia-Simpson, & Mewland, 2007) So what does that look like in real life?
Relationships for the narcissist are about what people can do for them.
In
romance someone with NPD values outwardly attractive people more than those who can
offer a true intimate relationship. In fact, they often view intimacy as a threat. Research
indicates that
narcissists report lower levels of empathy, intimacy, caring, commitment,
and selflessness.
Narcissists look for mates with high social status, good looks, or success.
They do not normally stay in a relationship beyond the point at which they benefit.
In a society where take-charge personalities
are respected and revered, the charm and
seduction of the narcissist will be irresistible to almost everyone. It is a misconception that
only those with low self esteem date someone who is self-centered.
She is often beautiful and if not, she carries herself as
though she were. She flaunts her
assets and is convinced that she is worth every dollar you
spend on her. The reward of her
pleasure is more than enough to keep you engaged. A narcissist needs to be the center of
attention- the prettiest, the most fortunate, the best.
She/he is very
focused on material possessions – house, car, clothes, jewelry.
She/he is jealous of anyone who has more, does more and gets more.
She/he can
become demanding, unpredictable, mean and cruel.
Their home
and children need to be the best
Her spouse, job, career, and income must meet her needs or she is unhappy.
She/he is not opposed to lying or misrepresenting the truth.
She/he surrounds self with those who will be manipulated into admiring and loving them.
Like her male counterpart, the narcissistic woman can be just as abusive.
She can be prone
to histrionics, but she can also be very
controlled – showing only the her
best to the public, and keeping the worst side of herself for those
closest to her. She reacts
badly to loss, and will go to great lengths
to protect what is hers.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a very real disorder. And unfortunately,
personality is generally difficult to change. The added difficulty with changing Narcissism is
that people who are narcissistic often don't want to change. In those cases, changing another
person is very, very difficult. Approximately 6.2% of the population suffers from lifetime
NPD, with 7.7% of them being men, and 4.8% being women.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a very real disorder. And unfortunately,
personality is generally difficult to change. The added difficulty with changing Narcissism is
that people who are narcissistic often don't want to change. In those cases, changing another
person is very, very difficult. Approximately 6.2% of the population suffers from lifetime
NPD, with 7.7% of them being men, and 4.8% being women.
***I first wrote about NPD in a previous post called "When Love is Not Enough."
To date, it has been my all-time most-read post.***
Wednesday, December 31, 2014
reflections on 2014
10 Highlights, Accomplishments, Best Memories:
1. Niagara Falls trip with Mr. Gryce
2. Watching my brother cut, rake and bale his first crop of hay
3. Tons of tutoring work
4. Summer walks with Mr. Gryce
5. Time spent with Kristin and Tanya
6. Hosting our first family dinner since we got married
7. Seeing my niece 3 evenings a week
8. Seeing Mr. Gryce and my brother continue to bond
9. Finishing the downstairs renos
10. Being happily married after all these years of renovations
10 Disappointments, Failures, Missed Opportunities:
1. Not exercising like I wanted to
2. Working with our contractor(s)
3. Not getting the job I wanted
4. Going over-budget on our renos
5. Not selling as much online as I hoped
6. Watching someone close to me get taken advantage of
7. Not being able to continue with counselling due to my crazy work schedule
8. Still not having a plan confirmed for next year's renovation project
9. Drifting apart from longtime friends
10. Not feeling connected at church
8 Things I've Learned
1. Take time to take care of yourself--physically, emotionally and spiritually. Take a nap, go out for dinner, have a phone date, go to counselling, join a small group, go to church.
2. Contractors are a dime a dozen but it's really hard to find a good one. Do your homework and don't settle for a half-ass job. Don't sign the check until you're not completely satisfied.
3. Never underestimate the power of social media. Can't get a big company or business to listen to you or take you seriously? Take it to Facebook!
4. Don't underestimate the importance of family. Proud of how my family has rallied and taken care of each other this year. Nobody messes with my family and gets away with it.
5. There are some perfectly rotten kids out there that make a teacher's life hell.
6. There are some really amazing kids (and a hefty paycheck) that can make it worth it.
7. Narcissists are dangerous; they will manipulate you, stab you in the back, and suck you dry. In the end, they will destroy you if you let them. Stay away from them at all costs.
8. I love Mr. Gryce more every day. We're almost 5 years into this relationship, and I can't imagine my life without him.
3 Things I Focused On:
1. Family
2. Finishing the inside of the house
3. Building my tutoring business
3 Things Forgotten or Not Gotten Around to:
1. Eating better and exercising more
2. Writing/blogging more
3. Keeping the house clean
Reflection:
Thanks for stopping by...I'm thrilled to have blog readers representing 10 different countries--that's 8 more than I've traveled to! It's been a busy year for us and we're glad to be able to share it with you all. Wishing you and yours an awesome 2015! The best is yet to come.
Friday, December 12, 2014
christmas greetings 2014
Dear Friends and Family and Blog Readers,
It’s hard to believe, but it’s that time
of year again! Where does the time go?! It’s been another eventful year in our
household, filled with renovations, renovations, and more renovations! We are
finally enjoying some “down time” as the winter season approaches. Here’s a
look at our year:
This past
spring, we finished renovating our downstairs bathroom, and then launched into
a full-scale renovation of the kitchen and living room. We set up our living
quarters in the partially-renovated downstairs office where we worked, lived,
and cooked for nearly 4 months! During this time, we had no floor in the
kitchen or living room, which meant no way to get to the upstairs; we resorted
to climbing in and out of the upstairs window for over a week! Once the new
floor went in, we were still climbing ladders for several more months before
the new staircase was built. We are thankful that this stressful time is
finally over, and that we can finally enjoy the fruit of our labours. Aside
from a few minor details (and some new furniture), we are happy to say that the
entire interior of our house has now been fully renovated!!!
Mr. Gryce is still working as a Senior Software Developer. Last month, he started his 5th year with the company. In addition to updating all the plumbing downstairs, Mr. Gryce spent many hours installing all new electrical wiring, outlets, and light fixtures downstairs. He’s proven to be quite the handyman! Mr. Gryce attended the annual Promise Keeper’s men’s conference in Toronto this fall. He continues to meet with Mrs. Gryce’s brother for their Friday night men’s group. In the New Year, he hopes to get involved with the men’s group at our church as well.
Mrs. Gryce continues to work as an emergency supply teacher with the local public school board. She has been working 2-4 days per week, in addition to tutoring 8 different students in the evenings. She tutored from home all summer (or rather, from her mom’s home, due to our renovations). Mrs. Gryce enjoys visiting thrift stores and still sells all sorts of items online, including her homemade jam and preserves.
This past April, we attended Jon & Veronica’s wedding in Hamilton and had the opportunity for a short visit with several of Mrs. Gryce’s university friends as well. In August, we celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary. We spent a weekend in Niagara Falls (first time for both of us), with our friends Jon & Mel. It was great to get away from renovations and see the sights, as well as spend some quality time with great friends.
We are currently part of a small group that meets on Thursday nights at our church. It’s been a great opportunity to learn as well as meet new people and get more connected with our church family.
We wish you all a very Merry Christmas, and many blessings for 2015.
Love, Mr & Mrs Gryce
Love, Mr & Mrs Gryce
(To read last year's greeting, go here.)
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
living room renovations - part 2
And the long-awaited part two! (Please read part one first.) Here's where we left off:
The new floor had just been put in, and then renovations ground to a halt when we experienced a 3+ week delay due to building permits and inspections. It was extremely stressful, but the building inspector that we worked with was very accommodating and each inspection went off without a hitch.
Without further ado, here's a look at the final leg of the journey from August onward:
Without further ado, here's a look at the final leg of the journey from August onward:
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| extra ceiling joists |
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| new window header (the old one had to be removed because it was warped and could crack our window) |
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| framed walls |
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| insulation |
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| first pine going up |
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| the new long-awaited staircase |
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| lighting installation |
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| the central light |
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| and potlights |
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| wood stove surround |
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| new railing |
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| post was designed to look similar to the original |
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| custom blinds |
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| carpeting |
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| custom closet doors built by our talented neighbour |
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| and the new coffee table that we designed (also built by our neighbour) |
In my opinion, the photos below don't do the finished product any justice; however, here's the new living room, designed by my amazing hubby (with thanks to Uncle Glenn who originally did this in his own home 20 years ago):
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| South-east wall |
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| Staircase |
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| with a nook above--perfect for collectables! |
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| west wall |
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| north wall with pocket door and built-in book shelves (also built by our neighbour) |
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| south wall |
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| The bullet casings on the blind strings-just one of the unique features |
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And then there's a gun vault...
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| And last, but certainly not least...the custom TV stand built by our neighbour. We've certainly come a long way, but the end result is totally worth it! |
Thursday, October 2, 2014
when love is not enough
Once upon a time, I wrote a post about the power of love in relationships, which was all well and good. Love is extremely powerful. It can do wonders for body, mind and soul. The Bible says that love can cover over a multitude of wrongs. Yet, while love can completely transform someone and make them blossom and bloom, what do you do with that one person for whom all the love in the world isn't ever going to be enough?
The Bible tells us that with God, all things are possible. But I also know there are people who are never, ever going to change. They are so messed up, so irreparably damaged, that barring a miracle from God Himself, they will never be healthy enough to do a real relationship. You can love on them 24/7, but it will never, ever be enough.
People who are this broken believe that the world revolves around them, and they desire to keep the focus on themselves at all times. They are arrogant, manipulative, and unable to empathize with others. They are extremely insecure and are compelled by their constant need for constant admiration. In their quest for protecting their fragile egos at all costs, they end up pushing away the very ones who can help them. By constantly demanding more than anyone could ever give, they will suck others dry--spiritually, emotionally, financially--all the while oblivious to the carnage they leave behind.
In my lifetime, I have met several of these people. At first glance, they seem fairly normal; however, if by chance you happen to read people very well and are able to see through their facade, they will do everything in their power to make you look like the crazy one. They will gossip and spread lies about you, and basically do everything in their power to assassinate your character and destroy your credibility at all costs. And for a time, most people without discernment will absolutely believe them and take their side.
But give it enough time, don't meet all their needs (good luck trying!), and eventually, all hell will break loose. The true condition of their broken, hurting hearts will be revealed. All the ugliness and poison will be unleashed, and most of the people around them won't know what hit them.
At this point, several things can happen. First, they will try to find another broken person to enable their bad choices and destructive behaviour. If they cannot find anyone, they may high-tail it out of town and start all over again in another place where no one knows them, and thus, the cycle will begin again. In both cases, nothing will ever change because there will always be someone around to validate their victim-playing mentality.
It's a terrible predicament. The people they most want to surround themselves with, are the very people that will destroy their chances of finding healing and engaging in meaningful relationship. And the people they most fear, are the ones who would most be able to help. By demanding attention and validation, they push away the ones who actually do care for them. By demanding love, they lose all chance of ever having the real thing.
The only way to stop the cycle is for these people to face one of their greatest fears and to be completely and utterly alone. Not in the sense that we write them off as hopeless and stop believing that God has the power to intervene. We never stop praying for that! But we do set firm boundaries to protect our hearts, our reputations, our families (and yes, even our finances!) because these individuals are not safe. We don't stay friends with them. We don't stay married to them. We don't engage in relationship with them because we cannot trust them.
This may seem overly harsh. This may seem cruel. But it's the only way. Unless they can recognize and acknowledge the severity of their condition, there will be no room for healing and growth. Until they recognize how broken they are, they can never start the journey of becoming whole. It will be incredibly difficult, uncomfortable, and painful. It will not be pretty. Things may get much, much worse before they seem to get any better. It will take years. A lifetime of unhealthy coping mechanisms cannot be unlearned overnight. Poor choices cannot be undone. Consequences to actions will not magically disappear. Not all relationships will be repaired. But until they examine and acknowledge the root of their brokenness, they can never grow into the healthy individual they were intended to be.
For many severely broken people, the journey will be too hard. They will quit and go back to their old, familiar, more comfortable ways. But we serve a big God. And where there is God, there is hope. There is forgiveness. There is healing. I will never stop believing that He has the power to change someone, no matter how far gone they may be. But I also recognize that it is only His love that has the power to transform such broken lives. My love alone is not enough.
The Bible tells us that with God, all things are possible. But I also know there are people who are never, ever going to change. They are so messed up, so irreparably damaged, that barring a miracle from God Himself, they will never be healthy enough to do a real relationship. You can love on them 24/7, but it will never, ever be enough.
People who are this broken believe that the world revolves around them, and they desire to keep the focus on themselves at all times. They are arrogant, manipulative, and unable to empathize with others. They are extremely insecure and are compelled by their constant need for constant admiration. In their quest for protecting their fragile egos at all costs, they end up pushing away the very ones who can help them. By constantly demanding more than anyone could ever give, they will suck others dry--spiritually, emotionally, financially--all the while oblivious to the carnage they leave behind.
In my lifetime, I have met several of these people. At first glance, they seem fairly normal; however, if by chance you happen to read people very well and are able to see through their facade, they will do everything in their power to make you look like the crazy one. They will gossip and spread lies about you, and basically do everything in their power to assassinate your character and destroy your credibility at all costs. And for a time, most people without discernment will absolutely believe them and take their side.
But give it enough time, don't meet all their needs (good luck trying!), and eventually, all hell will break loose. The true condition of their broken, hurting hearts will be revealed. All the ugliness and poison will be unleashed, and most of the people around them won't know what hit them.
At this point, several things can happen. First, they will try to find another broken person to enable their bad choices and destructive behaviour. If they cannot find anyone, they may high-tail it out of town and start all over again in another place where no one knows them, and thus, the cycle will begin again. In both cases, nothing will ever change because there will always be someone around to validate their victim-playing mentality.
It's a terrible predicament. The people they most want to surround themselves with, are the very people that will destroy their chances of finding healing and engaging in meaningful relationship. And the people they most fear, are the ones who would most be able to help. By demanding attention and validation, they push away the ones who actually do care for them. By demanding love, they lose all chance of ever having the real thing.
The only way to stop the cycle is for these people to face one of their greatest fears and to be completely and utterly alone. Not in the sense that we write them off as hopeless and stop believing that God has the power to intervene. We never stop praying for that! But we do set firm boundaries to protect our hearts, our reputations, our families (and yes, even our finances!) because these individuals are not safe. We don't stay friends with them. We don't stay married to them. We don't engage in relationship with them because we cannot trust them.
This may seem overly harsh. This may seem cruel. But it's the only way. Unless they can recognize and acknowledge the severity of their condition, there will be no room for healing and growth. Until they recognize how broken they are, they can never start the journey of becoming whole. It will be incredibly difficult, uncomfortable, and painful. It will not be pretty. Things may get much, much worse before they seem to get any better. It will take years. A lifetime of unhealthy coping mechanisms cannot be unlearned overnight. Poor choices cannot be undone. Consequences to actions will not magically disappear. Not all relationships will be repaired. But until they examine and acknowledge the root of their brokenness, they can never grow into the healthy individual they were intended to be.
****This post has been swirling in my head for several months. Now that I have finally been able to get it down, I am indebted to both my discerning hubby as well as my wise pastor, who have both taught me so much about the human heart and it's need for healing and redemption.****
Tuesday, September 30, 2014
contractors: the good, bad, and ugly
As we are nearing the completion of our interior renovations, we have a fairly good idea of who we would hire again and who we wouldn't. So, to promote deserving businesses, and to make sure others don't have to experience the headaches we've had to, here's my honest evaluation of some of the many businesses and contractors we've dealt with over the past four years:
Tim Bakker - Plumbing (Picton)
5/5
Formerly of Veenstra Plumbing, Tim is experienced and knowledgeable. Good service. Works hard to get things done on-time and on-budget.
Verkuyl Construction (Picton)
0/5
Terrible customer service. Little regard for details, building codes, and workmanship. Had to pay someone else to re-do most of the work, and still got billed for the full price. A close friend also had a bad experience.
Carpet One (Belleville)
3/5
Decent selection and service. Prices are steep but their Beautiful Guarantee is legit. However, beware of one of their sub-contractors, Kirkland's, who does the carpet installation. Not only did they arrive late, they were very sloppy and marked up doors, walls, and crushed one of our outdoor planters. Because they were late on the job, they had to return in the evening of the next day just to complete our job. Also, do not have them install anything marble or granite as they are only knowledgeable when it comes to ceramic.
Wilson's Flooring (Belleville)
5/5
We dealt directly with Jim & Janneke Smardenkas, who took care of the ordering and installation of our new upstairs carpets. Their prices were comparable, and the installation was very professional.
Beyond Marble & Tile (Mississauga)
4/5
Carried the incredibly-hard-to-find dark green tile we wanted. Just make sure you check over every.single.tile you get, especially if they are end-of-the-line seconds. The second time we ordered from them, all of the tiles were etched. They offered to do an exchange, but the ones they had left were also quite bad. I would say that overall their customer service was quite good.
Top Notch Drywall (Picton)
5/5
Very approachable, accommodating, and respectful of your home. Work quickly and efficiently and clean up after themselves. Satisfaction is guaranteed and there are no hidden costs. Customer service far exceeded our expectations.
Chris DeMille Excavating (Picton)
5/5
Great customer service. Fair prices.
William Design Company (Hillier)
2.5/5
Excellent workmanship and design. Just don't expect phone messages to be returned, or for the project to be completed in a timely manner. Get a written contract for everything or the final bill will be an unpleasant surprise.
John Vanderloon Construction (Roslin)
3/5
Capable of very good craftsmanship and would recommend him for fine carpentry projects. If you have a large project, this would not be a good fit, as he takes his time and does his best work alone. Be sure to get a written estimate for everything, bearing in mind that it is only an estimate. The final bill will more than likely have unexpected additional costs tacked on.
dTb Heating Services (Toronto)
5/5
Experienced and knowledgeable. Excellent pricing. Customer service was above and beyond our expectations.
GRT Electric (Belleville)
5/5
Experienced and knowledgeable. Excellent customer service and D.I.Y. support. Extremely reasonable prices.
Exterior Decor (Picton)
4/5
We had Exterior Decor out for a number of small projects over the years. In my opinion, they are overpriced; however, Dan's work is excellent. If price is an issue for you, (like it was for us), then I would recommend getting Dan to complete your project as a side-job. He installed our windows, doors, flashing, fascia and soffit, as well as the siding on our garage. He also fixed a 50-year old leak on one of our dormers that no one else could.
Home Hardware (Picton)
5/5
Knowledgeable staff. Excellent in-store customer service. Good quality products. Convenient location. The 3-D designer tool on their website was invaluable for deciding what we wanted our new kitchen to look like. Highly recommend their Kitchen design/installation team to make your dream a reality.
Chambers Roofing (Belleville)
4/5
These guys were sub-contracted through our main contractor. Their prices are competitive and their crew of 4 finished installing our shingles promptly. However, I was not impressed when they left all their personal garbage (and paint cans from another job) on our job site.
Trimar Doors (Belleville)
5/5
I emailed Sean a photo of the garage doors I wanted and he was able to order and install them in less than 3 weeks. All my inquiries were addressed promptly. The price was reasonable. The installation was professional. When we had an accident with one of our doors, he was able to order the new part and install it quickly.
Alota Tile (Bloomfield)
5/5
These guys deserve a blog post of their own. Rusty has been extremely helpful in assisting us with a marble tile crisis, going above and beyond anything we'd expect for customer service. He has made countless trips to our home to go over things with us, has done hours of research, and has made numerous inquiries and phone calls on our behalf. The installation was prompt and the guys were very meticulous cleaning up and making sure it looked like they were never even here.
Walt Schaly Design/Build, Inc. (Plainfield)
5/5
After working with some average (and some below average) contractors in the past, we were pleasantly surprised by Walt. Because he is also a designer, hiring him eliminated the need for us to hire a private designer. He was very easy to work with, listening to all our ideas and understanding our vision. Walt is one of the hardest working contractors we've met and is extremely knowledgeable. We had no problems with any inspections because everything was done right the first time. Not only did we find his initial estimate comparable (if not lower) than some of the other contractors, our new construction project was completed under budget (which allowed us to hire him for some "extras" afterwards). By having us pay most of the sub-contractors directly, he also saved us hundreds of dollars in HST. Our only regret is that he wasn't living in our area five years ago when we started renovating.
Dynamic Exteriors (Belleville)
4.5/5
Recommended by Walt, we had Mike from Dynamic replace all our remaining old eavestrough. He was a fraction of the price of anyone in the County, and we did not pay one cent more than his original quote. It took a while for him to get here to complete the project, but once we finally got a date locked down, the work was done quickly. Although the customer service aspect could have used some improvement, the end price and result more than made up for a few phone calls not being returned promptly.
Inline Fence, David Lindsay (Belleville)
4.5/5
We had David install our vinyl fence and were pleased with the end result. He was flexible with our schedule, even though it meant he had to work all day Saturday to complete the project. When we had an issue with how one of the gates was installed, he came back and corrected it.
Tim Bakker - Plumbing (Picton)
5/5
Formerly of Veenstra Plumbing, Tim is experienced and knowledgeable. Good service. Works hard to get things done on-time and on-budget.
Verkuyl Construction (Picton)
0/5
Terrible customer service. Little regard for details, building codes, and workmanship. Had to pay someone else to re-do most of the work, and still got billed for the full price. A close friend also had a bad experience.
Carpet One (Belleville)
3/5
Decent selection and service. Prices are steep but their Beautiful Guarantee is legit. However, beware of one of their sub-contractors, Kirkland's, who does the carpet installation. Not only did they arrive late, they were very sloppy and marked up doors, walls, and crushed one of our outdoor planters. Because they were late on the job, they had to return in the evening of the next day just to complete our job. Also, do not have them install anything marble or granite as they are only knowledgeable when it comes to ceramic.
Wilson's Flooring (Belleville)
5/5
We dealt directly with Jim & Janneke Smardenkas, who took care of the ordering and installation of our new upstairs carpets. Their prices were comparable, and the installation was very professional.
Beyond Marble & Tile (Mississauga)
4/5
Carried the incredibly-hard-to-find dark green tile we wanted. Just make sure you check over every.single.tile you get, especially if they are end-of-the-line seconds. The second time we ordered from them, all of the tiles were etched. They offered to do an exchange, but the ones they had left were also quite bad. I would say that overall their customer service was quite good.
Top Notch Drywall (Picton)
5/5
Very approachable, accommodating, and respectful of your home. Work quickly and efficiently and clean up after themselves. Satisfaction is guaranteed and there are no hidden costs. Customer service far exceeded our expectations.
Chris DeMille Excavating (Picton)
5/5
Great customer service. Fair prices.
William Design Company (Hillier)
2.5/5
Excellent workmanship and design. Just don't expect phone messages to be returned, or for the project to be completed in a timely manner. Get a written contract for everything or the final bill will be an unpleasant surprise.
John Vanderloon Construction (Roslin)
3/5
Capable of very good craftsmanship and would recommend him for fine carpentry projects. If you have a large project, this would not be a good fit, as he takes his time and does his best work alone. Be sure to get a written estimate for everything, bearing in mind that it is only an estimate. The final bill will more than likely have unexpected additional costs tacked on.
dTb Heating Services (Toronto)
5/5
Experienced and knowledgeable. Excellent pricing. Customer service was above and beyond our expectations.
GRT Electric (Belleville)
5/5
Experienced and knowledgeable. Excellent customer service and D.I.Y. support. Extremely reasonable prices.
Exterior Decor (Picton)
4/5
We had Exterior Decor out for a number of small projects over the years. In my opinion, they are overpriced; however, Dan's work is excellent. If price is an issue for you, (like it was for us), then I would recommend getting Dan to complete your project as a side-job. He installed our windows, doors, flashing, fascia and soffit, as well as the siding on our garage. He also fixed a 50-year old leak on one of our dormers that no one else could.
Home Hardware (Picton)
5/5
Knowledgeable staff. Excellent in-store customer service. Good quality products. Convenient location. The 3-D designer tool on their website was invaluable for deciding what we wanted our new kitchen to look like. Highly recommend their Kitchen design/installation team to make your dream a reality.
4/5
These guys were sub-contracted through our main contractor. Their prices are competitive and their crew of 4 finished installing our shingles promptly. However, I was not impressed when they left all their personal garbage (and paint cans from another job) on our job site.
Trimar Doors (Belleville)
5/5
I emailed Sean a photo of the garage doors I wanted and he was able to order and install them in less than 3 weeks. All my inquiries were addressed promptly. The price was reasonable. The installation was professional. When we had an accident with one of our doors, he was able to order the new part and install it quickly.
Alota Tile (Bloomfield)
5/5
These guys deserve a blog post of their own. Rusty has been extremely helpful in assisting us with a marble tile crisis, going above and beyond anything we'd expect for customer service. He has made countless trips to our home to go over things with us, has done hours of research, and has made numerous inquiries and phone calls on our behalf. The installation was prompt and the guys were very meticulous cleaning up and making sure it looked like they were never even here.
Walt Schaly Design/Build, Inc. (Plainfield)
5/5
After working with some average (and some below average) contractors in the past, we were pleasantly surprised by Walt. Because he is also a designer, hiring him eliminated the need for us to hire a private designer. He was very easy to work with, listening to all our ideas and understanding our vision. Walt is one of the hardest working contractors we've met and is extremely knowledgeable. We had no problems with any inspections because everything was done right the first time. Not only did we find his initial estimate comparable (if not lower) than some of the other contractors, our new construction project was completed under budget (which allowed us to hire him for some "extras" afterwards). By having us pay most of the sub-contractors directly, he also saved us hundreds of dollars in HST. Our only regret is that he wasn't living in our area five years ago when we started renovating.
Dynamic Exteriors (Belleville)
4.5/5
Recommended by Walt, we had Mike from Dynamic replace all our remaining old eavestrough. He was a fraction of the price of anyone in the County, and we did not pay one cent more than his original quote. It took a while for him to get here to complete the project, but once we finally got a date locked down, the work was done quickly. Although the customer service aspect could have used some improvement, the end price and result more than made up for a few phone calls not being returned promptly.
Inline Fence, David Lindsay (Belleville)
4.5/5
We had David install our vinyl fence and were pleased with the end result. He was flexible with our schedule, even though it meant he had to work all day Saturday to complete the project. When we had an issue with how one of the gates was installed, he came back and corrected it.
*** The opinions in this post are my own. I was in no way compensated by any company or business. I acknowledge that my experiences may not be the same as other clients; however, I have no qualms about recommending any of the businesses or companies that received a 5-star rating. ***
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